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Individuation is the goal!

In talking therapy, we seek to unravel who we are. We expect to peel through the layers until there are none. 

The goal of therapy is to find the bare-bone self. We are reluctant yet intentional.

However, we are in a world of hard knocks in real life. It makes us wonder how to traverse through it unscathed.

Experiences shape our temporary behaviors. Some accidentally or some others after reflection. 

That goes on until we gather new experiences that shatter our beliefs and build new ones. In real life, our experiences teach us to remove the layers just as the therapy! 

One may be an intentional process driven by self-awareness. In a few instances, we recognize that things need to change. Consciously. 

The other one, however, is a bit like walking blindfolded. We depend on experiences and decide to change because of how experiences turn out. Unconsciously. 

Both of these are processes of finding the bare metal self. That is individuation! The one that frees us from facades!

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