It is hard to not think about how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. The gap often appears enormous. Unsurprisingly, you are attracted to easy tricks and treats to get past it! Only to find that the shortcuts that should have helped seemingly don't work and then you are stumped... The main issue is focusing on the result without control over it. While expecting results is always a dreamy desire, success depends on the route you take to get results. The course involves a lot of original work with little recognition and reward. It consists of working in quiet, dark, dusty corners and to get your hands in the mud. Some days feel like endless early mornings and late nights, all starting and ending with a streak of mistakes and false hopes that ensue. Learning by doing is a great way to provide real hope. The route appears marred with costly quest of unfathomable. Learning is time-consuming; costs time and money, and failures are totally humbling, r...
It is easy to bend backwards and accomodate others. When you do so, it is obvious to generate affection that leads to you being likeable. You tend to be always available, seek others' attention more that what your needs are for yourself, or do things to transactionally connect with others. As long as you continue doing what others prefer, you are sure to be liked! And who does not like to liked like that! People pleasing acts have huge downsides. It is different when you set boundaries, take a principled stand about when do you indulge with collaborative activity involving others and when you focus on your priorities. Principles drive energies, brings rigor and sets responsibilities. It is governed with consistency and you come across that uniform, thought and consistent in any and every situation as against preferential. Obviously, principled person is hard to pierce into. When you do, you will discover rythem of clear communication, prioritisation, importance of building long-ter...