It is easy to bend backwards and accomodate others. When you do so, it is obvious to generate affection that leads to you being likeable.
You tend to be always available, seek others' attention more that what your needs are for yourself, or do things to transactionally connect with others.
As long as you continue doing what others prefer, you are sure to be liked! And who does not like to liked like that!
People pleasing acts have huge downsides.
It is different when you set boundaries, take a principled stand about when do you indulge with collaborative activity involving others and when you focus on your priorities.
Principles drive energies, brings rigor and sets responsibilities. It is governed with consistency and you come across that uniform, thought and consistent in any and every situation as against preferential.
Obviously, principled person is hard to pierce into. When you do, you will discover rythem of clear communication, prioritisation, importance of building long-term trust and focus on effortless collective wins.
That leads to respect. Being respected wins in the long term over being liked.
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