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How is help sent our way?

By Bamboo In The Wind

We are usually unaware of the energy we emit. The emission of energies reflects the state of matter and in us humans' state of mind. We are what we experience, internalize, and respond to.

What we experience, acts as a stimulus to how we feel and eventually how we respond. What we don't realize is this between stimulus and response there is space. It's vital to be cognizant of that space. The absence of space between stimulus and response creates a reaction. The presence of space between them creates a response. 

There is a subtle and yet very important difference between the two. The reaction is usually a spontaneous expression of how we felt as an individual. A response comprises of consumption of our feelings, understanding of facts and circumstances, and internal check of validity and relevance of our action.

The reaction thus creates emphatic energy around how we felt. Response creates accommodative energy around what is the right thing to do. The same situation makes different people emit different energies based on the presence and absence of a space between stimulus and response.

The reaction often emits a demand. The demand for certain action, behavior, or support. A response on the hand emits a request. A request for a certain action, accommodation, participation, or changes.

The reaction results in reluctant help being offered, of course with all good intentions but yet with a knowledge that we are catering to demand. We also likely witness a sense of entitlement and no sense of responsibility.

A response on the other hand results in an understandably lending of a helping hand, with a knowledge that we are engaging someone who cares about development and has an understanding of how it will benefit them and what their responsibilities in return are.

Different between a reaction to a stimulus and a response to a stimulus is minor. It's whether or not there is a space for thinking through where are at.

Have you thought about using space in this manner? Is the large enough to create a response? Perhaps worth a thought.

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