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Crossing over to responsibility and care!

This dialogue between Denzel Washington and his younger son from Fences is rather intriguing.

It provides vital lessons about what it takes to build life credibly and how and where to place priorities when the resources are finite.

Denzel's delivery of the message is direct and tells the harsh realities that take over in life, and still, we must have a clear line of sight of what is important over what is urgent.

Interestingly, the scene also provides glimpses of how we take relationships for granted and the sense of entitlement that emerges from them.

It explains the responsibility of the head of household and what all they have to do to provide for those they are responsible for.

Dezel's no-nonsense communication to his son is an excellent lesson that continuous bending over backward goes on despite compassionate leadership and supposedly good personnel-friendly practices in life and at work. We must draw boundaries between what is permissible and what is expected from those in our influence circle.

It also outlines that the sense of entitlement is no guarantee that we will have the life we want. It represents a demand. We need to ensure the world treats us right. We need to command that through our work and interaction.

Crossing over to responsibility and care requires understanding the commitment needed by both sides of the conversation table. It results in alignment with the common interest and collaboration for measurable improvement.

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