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Fences are constraining and liberating!

By Bamboo In The Wind

Boundaries protect and separate both. There is an internal and external part inherent to them. It tells who is included and who is excluded. It defines closer and farther ones. It erects an inner circle and an outer circle.

You have interactions all the time. Have you seen yourself drawing an illusionary fence? You place yourself on the side of the conversation - for or against - guided mainly by your biases. You are either on the side of warm, broad-minded, and accommodating, or you are on the side of harmed, neglected, or excluded. The sides reflect alignment boundaries or non-alignment.

Untimely, ill-drawn fences can create a distance, constrain, and trigger hostility.

Well-laid fences, on the other hand, are liberating. They act as some sort of encircling safety net. A trust perimeter where you know you can operate without fear of hurting. Toppling fear gives rise to accommodation.

Draw fences to include unique constituents that enhance accommodation. When you do, you will find yourself growing beyond the constraints of boundaries. You become the consolidator.

A fence defines free space for exploration, expressing an unadulterated inner self, for being creative at will.

Draw fences. And if they are constraining, don't hesitate to redraw as often as required.


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