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How does resilience muscle build?

By Bamboo In The Wind

When life knocks us down, it can look like a terrifying path of no return! We freeze in action, feel low, and don't find a way out of the endless spiral of hopelessness. 

What exacerbates this feeling is that no one can help and understand our plight. We find the world around us simply walking on while trapped in the most difficult. We are lonely and tempted to fight our battles alone!

Contrary to how we feel, that is usually different. The world around us is exceptional and competent enough to notice our problems. People around us have a wealth of experience and initiative to show us that life is full of ups and downs, success and failure, and acceptable and unacceptable. We simply need to listen to what is coming our way!

We learn setbacks are followed by comebacks! If we care to ask or listen to those who care, we will understand ways to weave emotional experiences into a rewarding string of comeback actions. This change of thought that we can overcome difficulties is where a resilient muscle begins to form.

We have all seen some people bounce back faster after failure. It is because of accepting the situation and stopping making excuses. Knowing your role in the problem is an essential step in recovery. 

These are all signs of developing resilience. The ability to deal with setbacks is the most critical skill in determining how to build life experiences into something meaningful without dropping the ball.

Having resilience muscle does not mean the problems go away. All it means is that we have ingrained a process of dealing with adversity, hurt, and disappointment at the root of the problem. It means we have learned to objectively look at the causes of each of those emotions and how to respond to them, where the actions taken under the influence of emotions and judgementally become unbiased actions. 

It gives us a frame of mind that we have a way out and the power to make our moves to negotiate the most difficult.

That is resilient enough to initiate a reversal to a massive comeback!

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