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Right versus Wrong.

From whose perspective? How do we know if the right is right and wrong is wrong? Our biases develop from quite a lot of things. We are affected by what we read, how we are raised, our experiences, and our actions. We absorb information from our environment and try to make sense of it through our emotions.

What we learn becomes a vital input to our thinking and subsequent actions. So it is important that we decipher what we experience through a balanced lens.

For example, if we are concerned about a lack of career progress, can we come up with at least a few reasons for why we lack progress?

Reasons provide us with relief. Rationally thought-out reasons provide unbiased possible explanations. They tell us why certain things may work the way they do. When that happens, we are comfortable with the clarity we ourselves provide. An important side effect of building out reasoning is, that in the process of reasoning, we avoid self-criticism. Don't blame anyone for our situation. We tend to be constructive to focus on steps that will take us out of the situation we are in and continue to make progress. We don't overly focus on others' views of us for what is wrong with us.

When we seek others' views of ourselves, it results in an internal conflict. Our view may match theirs. Or they may not. Then the battle of right versus wrong emerges. 

Right versus wrong is a result of binary positions about something. It's a separate attempt to turn arguments, reasoning, and outcomes in the way we see fit.

The right versus wrong debate does not prove much. All it might reflect on is that you have a strong view that you are unwilling to comprise. Right versus wrong has an inherent bias built into it. An open mind knows the real situation lies somewhere in between.

An open mind is built from learning to decipher everything with neutrality. It is about knowing that there exists more than one possibility that creates a situation. An open mind tells us that we must be sensitive to different possibilities.

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