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On deaf ears!

Disconnection is the state where the inability to see the continuity, comprehend and respond is weak. The state of disconnection makes us insensitive no the needs that nurture a lively, meaningful coexistence.

As simple as it appears, disconnection is due to accumulated emotions closing the route to sensitivity that triggers the affirmative input for action.

We have long been told to rely on other people for help, but we need to figure out how to find whom to rely on. And then, even if we did, what if the person we tried depending on did not offer the expected support.

Incidentally, people who are willing to help share a comfortable position with themselves and have good navigation of their outbound interactions - both positive and negative. They are more inclined to help with position interactions and more introspective about the negative ones. 

And thus, a person with a comfortable self is like to be more open to listening, comprehending, and responding to a weak signal from someone in need and amplifying it with their own support.

A weaker self, on the other hand, will draw everything on deaf ears. There is rarely any hope that you will form beneficial connections.

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