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Rules.

You have preferences. You have rules.

Preferences tend to be a bit softer on you. You act based on your mood. Preferences are flexible.

Rules are meant to be obeyed. You make rules because certain things are non-negotiable.

One can make rules about anything that supposedly improves their situation. Rules help in breaking undesirable habits. 

In the absence of rules, you second guess yourself when faced with temptation. It is easy to fall back on behaviors that are easy and provide instant gratification. In the short run, preferences outweigh. They provide the pleasure of being in the stream with the flow. Comforting self is of utmost importance.

Rules are meant to be hard to keep up with. They feel like a tiring swim against the flow. They have the power to hop over temptations. Complying with the rules builds a resilient practice.

Rules are the basis for providing structure to anything you do. The right set of rules opens spurts of productive actions with intent. And yet, they still leave room for your preferences that provide the necessary breather to cater to.comforts of self.

It's an art to make rules and keep them. 

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