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Why do we disengage?

Have you ever been bullied by the feeling of disengagement? At some point in your personal or professional life, disengagement has run over your enthusiasm for remaining plugged and being part of constructive action.

Disengagement comes from situations you face. You are involved in something with intent and commitment and encounter something bothersome. It is contrary to your belief or does not fit with your effort.

You aren't prepared for a roadblock at that juncture. Unable to tackle it, you feel trapped!

The reaction is to make do with it. You sometimes call it a compromise. Ignorance is another one. Letting it be. 

In some ways, it is a unilateral walk-out from an unfavorable situation. The hope is by distancing yourself, you can get others to bend backward. To stall them from further action until they notice your pain. 

Disengagement is thus a reaction to something hard to resolve on your own. What more? You hope to make others re-engage with you expecting a total climb down! Self-righteousness at its peak!

Did you notice a small effect? You have flared up expectations that someone else owns the action. In reality, you block yourself from constructive action. 

The flip side of disengagement is confronting adversity with an open mind. 

It is sure to dissipate the feeling of discontent and reengage you. It lets you stay in the flow of action when faced with difficult situations. It recreates enthusiasm for the purpose you faced the hurdle pursuing.

Work to address discontent, and you will condition yourself for the long engaging game that makes you achieve your intentions.

Disengagement is a reaction! Engagement is a response! All up to you.

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